Coworker's dead cat

[TrailBate]

Okay, I have a 30-something year old co-worker (female) who is blubbering like an 8 year old because one of her cats died. Is she being overdramatic, or am I being insensitive? It's just a cat, for chrissakes.
"oh, I dont' even want to be here. I can't concentrate. boo hoo"

c'mon lady, I run over at least one cat per month.

[felixatvtc]

It's a combo, you are kind of a unsensitive bastard to her sadness, and yet, she's blubbering like she just lost a child. You need to say i'm sorry that you lost your cat, and she needs to go *sniffle* thanks and get the f. over it.
If she doesn't want to be there, she doesn't have to be. tell her to waste a vacation day over it

[CouchingTiger]

People can/do get attached to their pets the same way some people get attached to their children. Sure, it's not a great idea but it just happens. The loss can be devistating for some, in both cases.

-Couch

[ArmOnFire]

I work with a lady who talks about her cats, like I talk about my kids. She does think they are the same thing, t o quote her,"this is my version of your children."
She has pictures all over her cube of them.

Effin' lunatic!

I guess she values the life of her cats the same as I do my kids.

I'm allergic to cats (thank god) and have never really liked them.
Any animal that acts all nice, gets on your lap, then all of a sudden it's clawing your lap.
NO THANKS!

Some people are weird, I'm sure there are people that think I am weird for my feelings about this.

Tell her to take a day for Bereavement.

-dan

[TrailBate]

She's picking up the ashes later today. I asked her if the cat was big enough to at least make some earmuffs out of the fur.

The cat people that really freak me out are the ones who have lots of cats and give them all regular people names.

[slapheadmofo]

I've had and lost a handful of cats and really never missed them. On the other hand, when my dog was killed by a speeder last year I was seriously bummed out for a while. He was one helluva good dog and we still miss him. Got his ashes in a little urn with his pic on it and everything.

I gotta say anybody who thinks of a pet as equivalent to their 'child' is pretty wacky though. If that driver had run over my son instead of my dog I'd likely be looking at some prison time right now.

[Mr_Cheeze]

My sister has a decrepid and barely living 19 year old Siamese. It has problems shitting, eating, walking, hearing and seeing, and has kidney problems for which she has to give it a shot every other day or something. Everybody, including her vet, is telling her she needs to let go. At this point, it's a sore issue with my family because eveybody thinks she is being selfish. We dined together over Easter, and she wouldn't even talk about the Terri Shaivo controversy because it struck too close to home.

The way I see it is, be merciful, put him down, and then go to the shelter and adopt another poor cat in need of a caring home.

My girlfriend is another one. Big animal lover. Volunteered for a shelter. All that crap. Last summer she happened to sort of witness a neighbor's escaped exotic bird get run over (she didn't actually see it, but blames herself because she failed in helping to contain the animal beforehand and when she returned, it was flattened in the road). Man, she friggin bawled all day! It wasn't even her bird.

Point is, chicks are out of control when it comes to getting attached to things. It's in their wiring. Better off just trying to ignore the woman as best you can. And staying away from dead cat jokes.

[MissJean]

We’ve got 2 cats & if one of them died I know I would be quite upset. But certainly not at the level if a human I loved died. They are both great cats, lots of personality.

When the dog had to be put down, I was bummed but not really upset, but then again that dog was really annoying.

When the nasty, mean ol’ rabbit died, I was surprising upset. But maybe it was just because I could sympathize with her more. ;)

Be nice to your co-worker, you may not fully understand, but she is hurting.

[jerseygirl]

Come on, Trailbait. Suppose someone ran over your bike?

If you want, they sell sympathy cards for pets at CVS.

[CouchingTiger]

...Any animal that acts all nice, gets on your lap, then all of a sudden it's clawing your lap...

-dan


Sort of like a teen being all nice and asking to borrow the car then banging it all up and leaving skanky empties under the seat only to deny it all and get p!ssy later ;)

-Couch

[ArmOnFire]

Posted by: CouchingTiger Posted on: Today at 01:22:27pm

Quote from: ArmOnFire on Today at 10:02:39am

...Any animal that acts all nice, gets on your lap, then all of a sudden it's clawing your lap...

-dan


Sort of like a teen being all nice and asking to borrow the car then banging it all up and leaving skanky empties under the seat only to deny it all and get p!ssy later

-Couch

Ooh, the teen years sound like so much fun!
Dreading getting to that point, and hopefully I will have done a good enough job parenting to prevent that.

[nhiker]

Posted by: CouchingTiger ***Posted on: Today at 01:22:27pm

Quote from: ArmOnFire on Today at 10:02:39am

...Any animal that acts all nice, gets on your lap, then all of a sudden it's clawing your lap...

-dan


Sort of like a teen being all nice and asking to borrow the car then banging it all up and leaving skanky empties under the seat only to deny it all and get p!ssy later

-Couch

Ooh, the teen years sound like so much fun!
Dreading getting to that point, and hopefully I will have done a good enough job parenting to prevent that.


LMFAO ! oh AOF good luck with that let me know how it works for you. When they become teanagers they immediatley become sociopaths....and this has nothing to do with how they were raised...so don't go blaming yourself! But eventually they become good and decent people again after maybe 18----19-----20 maybe. ::)

[Slider]

We have three Maine Coons - almost as big as a kid. They communicate, have personalities, moods, and give and appreciate affection. Live with any pet long enough, especially affectionate ones, and anybody would get attached, assuming you don't break out in hives every time they come near.

But I agree - enough is enough. When you get a cat, you know 10 years is about all you can expect, and 20 would be extreme. It should not be a surprise when they die. And it is too much to take it into work with you. Stay home if you're that distraught.

With people, we have lots of coping mechanisms - funerals, wakes, memorial services, etc. There are no mechanisms for grieving over pets, so don't be so hard on the poor woman. Unless she's still blubbering tomorrow....

Slider

[gnurider1080]

Posted by: CouchingTiger Posted on: Today at 01:22:27pm

Quote from: ArmOnFire on Today at 10:02:39am

...Any animal that acts all nice, gets on your lap, then all of a sudden it's clawing your lap...

-dan


Sort of like a teen being all nice and asking to borrow the car then banging it all up and leaving skanky empties under the seat only to deny it all and get p!ssy later

-Couch

Ooh, the teen years sound like so much fun!
Dreading getting to that point, and hopefully I will have done a good enough job parenting to prevent that.

the teen years wont be fun if you have a daughter. i have an older sister who is 17 and can describe her throughout her teen years with two words: psycho b*tch.

[Dino Sore]

True Dead Cat Story:

The couple accross the street had a cat. Actually the wife's cat and she's pretty attached to it. Wife goes away for the weekend. Cat wanders off and doesn't come home for a day. Another neighbor tells the husband that there's a dead cat in the road, and it looks like their cat. Husband goes and gets dead cat, brings it home and buries it in the back yard. Wife comes home at the end of the weekend and is given the grim news. She's bummed, lots of tears, etc. Next morning they look out their front window and see their cat walking around. Dumbs**t husband buried someone elses cat!

A couple day's later the dead cat's real owner shows up (hysterical, of course) and my neighber had to dig up the dead cat and give it to her.

[MTBME]

Ahh, what's everybody so upset about another dead cat!

[TrailBate]

In my former neighborhood in Sandwich, there was always a missing cat sign posted all over the place. I always wanted to go to these people and tell them what coyotes are, and that their cat was probably eaten by one. What are these people thinking?
I have no sympathy for people who let their pets run around wild. And isn't it law in massachusetts that if you run over a dog, you have to notify the owner? That's bs. I'm not going out of my way to let some dip***T dog owner know his dog is crow food. Unless it did damage, then I may call for some monetary compensation.

[truckboy]

Careful.

Cats are one thing...... Dogs are quite another.

[off piste]

Careful.

Cats are one thing...... Dogs are quite another.


And what would that be -- cats are mostly white meat, and dogs are mostly dark?

[ArmOnFire]

Posted by: CouchingTiger Posted on: Today at 01:22:27pm

Quote from: ArmOnFire on Today at 10:02:39am

...Any animal that acts all nice, gets on your lap, then all of a sudden it's clawing your lap...

-dan


Sort of like a teen being all nice and asking to borrow the car then banging it all up and leaving skanky empties under the seat only to deny it all and get p!ssy later

-Couch

Ooh, the teen years sound like so much fun!
Dreading getting to that point, and hopefully I will have done a good enough job parenting to prevent that.


LMFAO ! oh AOF good luck with that let me know how it works for you. When they become teanagers they immediatley become sociopaths....and this has nothing to do with how they were raised...so don't go blaming yourself! But eventually they become good and decent people again after maybe 18----19-----20 maybe. ::)


I forgot to insert the ___ around the last bit about parenting.

My daughter is 4 going on 15, I am in trouble.

[TrailBate]

I would have much more sympathy for someone who lost a dog than for someone who lost a cat. To me, losing a cat is like losing a fish. but that's just me.
I'm just saying that I'm not going to go out of my way to hunt down the owners of a dog that just played chicken with my car and lost.

[slapheadmofo]

I have no sympathy for people who let their pets run around wild. And isn't it law in massachusetts that if you run over a dog, you have to notify the owner? That's bs. I'm not going out of my way to let some dip***T dog owner know his dog is crow food. Unless it did damage, then I may call for some monetary compensation.


Sometimes a little kid will open the door and accidentally let a dog out, or a dog will occasionally slip it's collar or something. You must be a real dink if you'd feel no sympathy after running over some kids dog. Probably a lot like the douchebags that rip by my house every day that think they're so damn important that if they don't do 50 down a narrow, windy residential backroad to get where ever it is they're going, the world will come to a grinding halt. If you hit a dog, it could just as easily have been a little kid.

Here's my last dog Miller and some of the final memories my 9 year old has of him.

http://www.bustedspoke.com/Photos/bs3268.jpg

http://www.bustedspoke.com/Photos/bs4515.jpg

http://www.bustedspoke.com/Photos/bs4516.jpg

[truckboy]

Careful.

Cats are one thing...... Dogs are quite another.


And what would that be -- cats are mostly white meat, and dogs are mostly dark?


Cats are mostly stupid and aloof. Ungrateful, entitled guests. Dogs are mostly Interactive and Loving. Loyal, family members.
Plus the letters of Dog spell God. Coincidence?....... I think NOT!!

[off piste]

Careful.

Cats are one thing...... Dogs are quite another.


And what would that be -- cats are mostly white meat, and dogs are mostly dark?


Cats are mostly stupid and aloof. Ungrateful, entitled guests. Dogs are mostly Interactive and Loving. Loyal, family members.
Plus the letters of Dog spell God. Coincidence?....... I think NOT!!


Cats spend their lives being waited on. Dogs do what they are told. Dogs often eat out of cats little boxes. I once witnessed my climbing partner's FEMALE black lab climb on top of their male cat and attempt to hump.

Mark -- devil's advocate.

[truckboy]

Careful.

Cats are one thing...... Dogs are quite another.


And what would that be -- cats are mostly white meat, and dogs are mostly dark?


Cats are mostly stupid and aloof. Ungrateful, entitled guests. Dogs are mostly Interactive and Loving. Loyal, family members.
Plus the letters of Dog spell God. Coincidence?....... I think NOT!!


Cats spend their lives being waited on. Dogs do what they are told. Dogs often eat out of cats little boxes. I once witnessed my climbing partner's FEMALE black lab climb on top of their male cat and attempt to hump.

Mark -- devil's advocate.


You forgot to mention that they smell eachother's asses as a form of greeting. How precious! Nothing better than a big face lick after a cat **** treat! See? Dogs are so much better.

[jerseygirl]

Say what you will about cats, but I've never had put out mouse traps.

[ArmOnFire]

Posted by: jerseygirl Posted on: Today at 02:21:06pm
Say what you will about cats, but I've never had put out mouse traps.

But you've probably had to take out some dead mouses ;D

[TrailBate]

it takes less time to put out a mouse trap than it does to clean all the damn fur off your clothes/furniture.

[Mr_Cheeze]

In my former neighborhood in Sandwich, there was always a missing cat sign posted all over the place.


That's the Low Men in yellow coats. They are looking for you.

(Stephen King reference?..... Anybody?.... Bueller?)

[huff'npuff]

[quote author=truckboy

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You forgot to mention that they smell eachother's asses as a form of greeting. How precious! Nothing better than a big face lick after a cat **** treat! See? Dogs are so much better.



Ummm..........and have you ever noticed what a dog licks!? ::)

( I've had both,and they're all great as pets. :) )

[jerseygirl]

Posted by: jerseygirl ***Posted on: Today at 02:21:06pm
Say what you will about cats, but I've never had put out mouse traps.

But you've probably had to take out some dead mouses ;D


Duh, like your going to leave them in the trap????

[jerseygirl]

it takes less time to put out a mouse trap than it does to clean all the damn fur off your clothes/furniture.


Oh yeah -- because we all know that dogs don't shed.

[MissJean]

Cats are mostly stupid and aloof. Ungrateful, entitled guests. Dogs are mostly Interactive and Loving. Loyal, family members.
Plus the letters of Dog spell God. Coincidence?....... I think NOT!!



That's the good thing about cats, they let you know when they want something, then they leave you the heck alone.

Dogs are just sooo needy. It's always play with me! or food, food, food or going outside??? or whatjadoin???
Ick.

I'm so much more in tune with the cats way of looking at life. ;D

[jerseygirl]

[quote author=oldbroad

Dogs are just sooo needy. It's always play with me! or food, food, food or going outside??? or whatjadoin???
Ick.


Sounds more like a husband.

[MTBME]

Sounds like somebody needs a little visit with Dr. Phil

[jerseygirl]

Sounds like somebody needs a little visit with Dr. Phil


Sounds like you've never met any of my ex-husbands, my friends' husbands and a lot of other guys.

[AA]

Sounds like somebody needs a little visit with Dr. Phil


Sounds like you've never met any of my ex-husbands, my friends' husbands and a lot of other guys.


Sounds more like you are tossing all guys into one bucket.

Oh I forgot this thread is about cats. I have a cat and love it very much, if it died I would be upset but I'm sure I wouldnt miss work. I like dogs but dont have the time and energy to devote to one. I dont think people should treat their pets as if they are children, face it they are pets not people, threat them well just dont over do it.

[jerseygirl]

Sounds like somebody needs a little visit with Dr. Phil


Sounds like you've never met any of my ex-husbands, my friends' husbands and a lot of other guys.


Sounds more like you are tossing all guys into one bucket.



Well, I figured as long as everyone was making sweeping generalizations about dogs and cats....

Besides -- I like my guy friends. :)

My cat is very easy to get along with and she shows affection even when she isn't looking to be fed. I would have a dog if I lived somewhere where the dog could run free and not be stuck home alone all day when everyone's at school and work.

[kernel crash]

" I would have a dog if I lived somewhere where the dog could run free "

I think I hear the song Born Free welling up in my head as I imagine your dog running out into the street. Screetch!!! Oh scratch that image. Now I see your dog running free across a meadow in the fields while a mountain lion is in hot pursuit. Oh. Scratch that image also. Think I'll keep my dog under lock and key for now :(

[jerseygirl]

" I would have a dog if I lived somewhere where the dog could run free "

I think I hear the song Born Free welling up in my head as I imagine your dog running out into the street. Screetch!!! Oh scratch that image. Now I see your dog running free across a meadow in the fields while a mountain lion is in hot pursuit. Oh. Scratch that image also. Think I'll keep my dog under lock and key for now :(




Actually I was thinking more along the lines of my brother's 30+ acres in the Northeast Kingdom where his German Shepard, Max has his run of the land, miles from the nearest "street."

[geezer]

SO MANY CATS /SO FEW RECIPES!!!!!! ;D

[MTBME]

Oooh, I didn't need to see that just before lunch.

[off piste]

Oooh, I didn't need to see that just before lunch.


Why? Are you having Chinese food?

[Quo Fan]

The Orientals prefer dog to cat anyway. Something about having more meat on the bones. ;D

[MTBME]

Actually we had BBQ delivered at work from Smokey Bones. Come to think of it, there was more meat on the bones :-\

[nhiker]

Alright you all asked for it so here it is. Don't look if you are sensitive.

I can't do it...even to in sensitive for me... :-\ :-[

Yeah I can take a look if you dare!

http://www.rotten.com/library/medicine/bodily-functions/eating/mans-best-friend/

[truckboy]

Isn't it funny how Oldbroad and Jerseygirl are the biggest proponents of cats and (I think) the biggest dog people here are men? You know how sometimes cats are compared to women and dogs to men? Coooool.

I should do acid at work more often.

[nhiker]

Give her this link also!
http://www.cafepress.com/deadcat

By the way I feel the same way about my pets as cats do about us....I can take them and like to pat them sometimes but I don't like the over exuberance of dogs.